I don’t have much experience with bars. I’ve been in a few that double as venues or restaurants, but I was either in a seperate area of the building or kicked out around 10 PM since I was 18 at the time and I was in Iowa City. They have a city ordinance that requires under 21s to be booted out of a building after 10 PM if that building serves alcohol. I’ve had brief glimpses of the phenomenon in Reunion, people packed in close together in a bar. But I realized that I have had plenty of experience with something similar, and it got me thinking… What if that phenomenon has a parallel? What if we are drawn to live music performance for the same reason?
I’m going to go ahead and assume that anyone reading this has been to at least one concert in their lifetime and has heard the song Reunion by Paradise Fears. If you haven’t been to a concert, that should probably be fixed as soon as possible. If you haven’t heard Reunion, listen to it here (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IcXF7p8lo0g&list=UUGJpoJXKxOSMhOqUrsnnw-g). Now, we all know what concerts are like. Depending on the size of the show, you can have tens to hundreds to thousands of people packed into one room. Most shows I go to are in the hundreds range. It’s hot and sweaty and you get jostled around and pushed into people and barricades and the stage and your hair gets messed up and your make up rubs off and you barely have room to move. But you’re also singing and screaming and rocking out to one of your favorite bands while they do what they love and for those few hours, everyone in that room is united by a common interest. And we don’t mind standing shoulder to shoulder with strangers because for once we have a place where we are accepted, a place where we belong, a place where we are not alone.
Obviously music factors into why we go to a concert in the first place. We wouldn’t be there if it weren’t for the bands playing. But why don’t we just watch videos of performances on YouTube? Why don’t we just watch live streams of concerts online? I think a large part of the answer is in the lyrics to Reunion. “We all look so damn happy, even though we’re all so lonely, and we’re standing close together ‘cause we think that it’s the only way to feel like we’re not alone. ‘Cause we’re not alone.”
So maybe even though I’ll only be 20 in May and I haven’t had any sort of experience with drinking and bars I can still relate to Reunion. Maybe we all can whether we’re 15, 19, 22, 35… Whether we’ve never consumed alcohol or never been in a bar or even if we go to bars all the time. There’s something that’s relatable in it to almost everyone of us. What do you think?
do you ever have second-hand obsessions
like one of your friends is super obsessed with a thing so whenever you see something about it you’re like “YES THIS THING” but you’re not the one obsessed with it. they are. you know very little about this thing and yet it still excites you because it excites your friend